Love Buddies

The real reasons why we choose that special someone . The real reasons we fancy someone .

Your Parents' Influence . Have you ever known a married couple that just didn't seem as though they should fit together -- yet they are both happy in the marriage, and you can't figure out why ? For the last 10 years I've been listening and watching to some TV and Radio shows and news about a married couple getting divorce over as what is consider as normal in certain Western State . Who I am to say what and who is right , who is the victim , or , who is wrong .

I know of one couple: He is a burly ex-athlete who, in addition to being a successful businessman , coaches local football League, is active in his state Political Club and plays golf every Saturday and Sunday with friends and clients . If I stand and question out in the rain and generally to long . He likes to play golf at least three weekends a month and he’d like and plan to play more, but he also likes and plan to spend time with his kids . Filling up my drinking cup and in silent I’m admired his personality .

What mysterious force drives us into the arms of one person, while pushing us away from another who might appear equally desirable to any unbiased observer ? Of the many factors influencing our idea of the perfect mate, one of the most telling, according to John Money, professor emeritus of medical psychology and pediatrics at Johns Hopkins University, is what he calls our "love map" -- a group of messages encoded in our brains that describes our likes and dislikes . When we know the factors , we have had much influence , more than enough was what we are espacted . Have they ever know a marrieage is an idea , for a couple that just didn’t seem as perfected as what they have factored , though they should fit together and mated together , yet they are both happy in one to another , in the marriage , and they can’t tell about it , and figure out why ? Write in the my love , pages of my map andnotebook of the group .

In short, we fall for and pursue those people who most clearly fit our love map . When I read and view , I often ask my wife what drew them to their dates or mates or even their spouse . I believe what my wife say . But they never understand the actualpurpose of marrieage , sound the way don’t have any clearly reason , they look for a seperation . Certain wife is leaving their husbands as they say their husbands are emotionally unattached to them anymore . Kicking at this reason , old tin can seperated into tiny pieces .

When we're little, our mother is the center of our attention, and we are the center of hers . The mother has an additional influence on her sons: she not only gives them clues to what they will find attractive in a mate, but also affects how they feel about women in general. They can’t figure the attention given by their parent , they out with theirs . Does additional influence affect women differently ? And I wonder whether a clues , where the hell they find the attractiveness , they are and affect on them .

Conversely, a mother who has a depressive personality, and is sometimes friendly but then suddenly turns cold and rejecting, may raise a man who becomes a "dance-away lover." When it seems impressive , so fine personality .

While the mother determines in large part what qualities attract us in a mate, it's the father -- the first male in our lives -- who influences how we relate to the opposite sex . Just as mothers influence their son's general feelings toward women, fathers influence their daughter's general feelings about men . When it is held by their mother , to the light for the large part . According to research conducted by Nielsen, fathers generally have as much or more influence than mothers on many aspects of their daughters’ lives . I can’t figure the qualities , they opt as a mate .

In addition, most of us grow up with people of similar social circumstances .